At a recent conference that I attended in Miami, one of the keynote speakers made a powerful statement, and it hasn’t left me yet!
“To be witnessed is to be loved.”
YES! YES! We all want to be witnessed, or seen, for who we are. We want people to love us for the wonderful, unique and individual people that we are…yet so very many of us find it utterly horrifying to actually be seen. We make ourselves small in an attempt to hide our very individual desires and goals.
We tell ourselves that we don’t deserve the success or achievements that our hearts truly desire. We worry about what others will think of us if we actually do all the things we want to. Will we earn more money than they do? Will they still love us if we do? Will we finally find the confidence and courage to get out of our own way and walk down the path of success? Will the ones we love still be there for us when we do?
So many times, we let the fear of those answers stop us or slow us down from getting all that we really, really want. Is that where you are? It is where I have been so many times. I am a work in progress…we all are! Yet, I have finally learned to trust that I will only ever get what I want, what is truly best for me, if I walk through that fear and take consistent action anyway. It is not easy, but it is simple. It requires at least a measure of pure courage.
When you learn to walk through the fear and know that you…amazing, special and unique you…have everything that you need already inside, ANYTHING becomes possible.
I want you to know that you can do it! You’ve told yourself a million times that you can’t…don’t believe it! Instead of saying “I can’t”, reframe your thoughts and ask a powerful question. “How can I?” When we approach our issues with curiosity instead of judgement, when we look for ways we can, instead of repeating the endless cycle of “I can’t”, we somehow find a way. We open ourselves to opportunities we might have overlooked before. Nothing is impossible…everything is possible!
I leave you with a beautiful quote from Nelson Mandela:
“I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.”
To YOUR Success,